Many conversations start with a question!
How are you? How have you been? What have you been up to? And so on.
How did you feel when you were asked the questions? Did you feel like Oh Jeeze no!
We have all been there particularly when things have not been going so well. We have all had those moments…some moments lasting longer than others..
How do those moments change us? Have we become more than one person?
Different with different people…
I come across many people who tell me they are different people when they are at home than when they are at work.
Its not surprising to hear this I hear you say. Many of us show up differently given different circumstances.
The problem is who are we really?
The Questions of Faith and Fear
How do we show up each day?
What do we want to show and importantly what do we want to hide?
What do we want people to think of us?
What are we afraid of if we really show who we are?
Scorecards are life cards!
The thing is from the moment we were born we had a scorecard…how heavy, how long. What color eyes…… and so on.
It continued through infancy through to schools and sports, what were we good at what did we suck at!!
Remember first impressions and lasting impressions?
Life is a scorecard and yet when we get to work we are often different, we give lesser of ourselves and to our co-workers in many cases much less and yet…..
Work and Life
Productivity -Be the best you can be
Attendance -Be punctual when meeting friends
Quality -Be present and attentive
Safety -Do no harm to others – build relationships
Discipline -Fairness and honesty – Always
You see the thing is that each defines you and they cannot be separated:
Are all ONE and the only thing you have to decide is whether faith of fear separates the REAL you from showing up.
HRMexplorer November 1st 2014
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A time when many of us will have fond memories and for some not so fond.
Life will always throw as soft curves and sometimes not so soft.
It is often the ones we love that give us the highest of highs and lowest of lows.
In my deliberations each day I come across people who ask more questions then there answers.
Many are afraid of what they will hear but human nature takes us there all too often anyway.
We are curious creatures, us humans, it makes us reach the highest of achievements and takes us to places where there is deep consternation and pain.
Life as we know it is will always surprise us. That is what makes it so exciting and unpredictable.
If we all knew each day what the rest of our life would bring how would that define who we are?
Courage and character comes from meeting the challenges of the unknown and the challenges we never wanted.
Too many of our friends leave us each day whether it is through natural death, injury, or disease.
Sometimes we just need to believe in faith and simply accept and cherish what we have and make the best of things. It is only then that we will overcome the worst of things.
Picture courtesy of Cherish Life Quotes As Diary.com | As Diary.
Part of The 4 stages of leadership – see my link http://wp.me/pTp83-lN
This blog is about the 6 phases of relationships and follows under Personal Reflection in my 4 stages of leadership model.
Phase 1 – Relationship with me! – Realization.
- What kind of relationship do I want to have with myself?
- Do I like who I am?
- Am I positive or negative in what I see or do?
- Do I even like ME and is this who I always want to be?
- Am I stuck in my own emotions and do I want to change?
- Do I know what I want from myself?
- Is the present person I am harming others?
Develop the vision of who you want to be.
Phase 2 – Relationships with my community – my Mask.
- Do people feel positively or negatively towards me?
- What do they see in my actions and behaviors?
- Does a different part of me come out when I am in my community of family, friends, coworkers and community?
- Do I even let them into my world or do I keep them out?
- Do they believe or trust me?
- Do I even trust myself?
- Do they want to be with me? – Do I want to be with me?
- Start to seek out others to define existing and future reality of who I need and want to be. Indeed is there a positive future if I do not seek help from others?
Develop oneness – get rid of different masks– look for support.
Phase 3 – Attraction – develop the person you like and need to become.
- Give yourself permission that it’s possible to be different.
- Release the chains that hold you in the past and move to the community that will help you move to your vision.
- Find the communities you need to be part off and seek help and develop new relationships that are trusting and supportive.
- Develop faith over fear for the change that is needed and yet to come.
Change is not the option the only option is whether you have the courage to choose it.
Phase 4 – Lets Hang out – Staying with your new community.
- Continue to develop the “likeability” and goodness factor.
- Hang out with people who engage and promote the person you have always wanted to become (and needed to become.)
- Be with people who support and reinforce who you are becoming.
- Start to behave not how others expect you but how you need to develop the new you.
Define your character based, not on what others expect you too, but in the knowledge that you are accountable for your own actions.
Phase 5 – Developing Awesomeness.
- Continue to develop and sustain your character through higher levels of trusting relationships.
- Remember that by becoming awesome you develop an ever-increasing community that sustains lifelong relationships.
- Reestablish relationships with those love ones that were harmed
- Know that by becoming awesome your actions will start to serve others and not yourself.
The first stage of servant leadership.
Phase 6 – SuperAwsome.
- Become a champion of memorable relationships.
- Share your experiences with others so that they can also be inspired.
The path to developing leadership in others.
Productive, effective employees that are motivated; give better customer service, up your sales, are more involved and stay longer with the company!
(And if they don’t your, training and development just became an expense)
Here is my top ten list:
- Money does motivates and when it doesn’t it de-motivates!! It is as simple as that! Pay your employees their worth don’t take advantage of them.
- Constantly share information with them, don’t keep them in the dark! The more they know the more valuable they will feel and understand what they are supposed to do.
- Clear job duties, accountabilities and goals are a must! Your employees need to know who is doing what; clears up of a lot of misunderstandings and duplication.
- Ask you employees for feedback, who knows better what is going on than your employees.
- Challenge your employees, give them ownership of projects, and let them soar! They will feel more trusted and included. They will become loyal to you for giving them the opportunity.
- Give your employees room for growth; job training opportunities, day conferences, projects, and REAL tasks. This will show value, and growth.
- Encourage teamwork, group and inter department projects; give them a reason to work together.
- Manage from distance. Having the boss looking over your shoulder is stressful.
- Coach your employees. Instead of ordering them around, do this, do that, coach them to take responsibility. Great leaders coach and they create a leadership environment.
- Fire the losers! They will spread negativity like wild fire! This very action will actually grow respect among your employees. Having someone around just collecting the paycheck is frustrating for your team.
Remember one of the most important qualities is to let others grow. It is not your right to hang on to everything, or that it must be done your way, or you have to give all the solutions.
Original idea from Sister Mae I and a conversation with HRMexplorer
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Talent is the source of creativity
Creativity produces Design
Design produces great Product
Product that needs to be shipped
Products that no one knew they wanted but when they see it they cannot live without it
Talent drives strategy
Strategy drives organizational positioning
Organizational positioning defines marketplace
Marketplace identifies customers
“Exquisite Customer imagination satisfaction” derives a platform for future creativity
Creativity demands that employees are artistes
The ONLY role of a LEADER is to develop and nurture the artist!