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“Par is what I shot today.”

Now not everyone is a golfer. This quote from Willie Nelson made me think however about how we think about ourselves and how sometimes the “little” things drive us so blindingly hard.

It is sometimes easy to forget to enjoy who we already are and the friendships and life already lived.

Now I know that for millions of golfers shooting Par golf is a sublime dream and no “little” thing.

We all have dreams. I think it is important that we have them.

Lets make sure that our dreams keep us grounded and deliver the best of ourselves.

There are many out there whose pursuit of their dream makes them people we do not want to be around.

Being reflective, being able to laugh at ourselves; enjoying life and knowing that we have so little time on this planet and doing the very best we can is already a life fulfilled.

Was this not the dream of our parents? They simply wanted us to be good people and be kind to others and have a good life.

Enjoying who you are is as important as who you want to be. Don’t let the one diminish the other.


The rubber band theory of Leadership™

I start my leadership classes by giving everyone a rubber band and ask them to “play” with it!

There are many ways they can do that!

Stretch it, make different patterns, wrap it around their fingers’, and flick it (even then they mimic only), put it round their wrist. Many creative ways they find!

AND yet….It is rare that anyone has EVER broken or snapped it!

Why is that I ask?

I have come to the conclusion that that rubber band signifies the “comfort zone” we all have.

Just like our comfort zone and what we do in life we can stretch that band or ourselves, to a point we see the grimaces’ and the contorted faces and then going that extra little millimeter brings out the fear of what will happen. So like that rubber band we go back to our original space.

That rubber band signifies the mental constraints we put on our ambitions, our visions, our loves, our daily lives, our decisions and what stops us being the best we could never imagine ourselves to be.

You see that rubber band is like the “box” we often hear about “let’s think outside the box.” The rubber band is just the same kind of constraint. When people say to us let’s think outside the box what are they implying? You got it. THERE IS A BOX!

Let us imagine there never was a box……what would our constraints be? What stresses would suddenly disappear. What fears would be lifted? What decisions would be made?

My point is when we stretch it should not to be determined by our fear but by how far we can push that stretch when there is nothing to stop it….

When we think there is no box or there is no fear of breaking that rubber band we give ourselves permission to deliver renewal and creative insights. We do whatever our imagination allows us to deliver. We no longer put fear to the forefront but rather the art of the imaginable.

When we think. “What would we do if we were not scared” Who Moved my Cheese. Dr. Spencer Johnson

Or “walk naked into the land of uncertainty.”   – Deep Change” Robert E. Quinn

When we snap that rubber band we are truly entering parts of our experiences and inner resolution we have never tapped into before because WE HAVE NEVER BEEN THERE BEFORE there is no comfort zone and there is no way back and no trodden path before us.

So we develop an open mindedness that has no limits and a courage that changes everything and a faith that overcomes fear and the leader within that has created a comfort zone that is truly without limits.


A Community “Developing a oneness and a calmness”

It seems that much of what we do, is related to who we know, what we learned, our interests, who our mentors were along the way, the trials and tribulations, our loves, they are all some how related and develop who we are.

After all the life we lead is the life we make.

The friendships we have experienced lead us to develop awareness and learning they also breathe life into how we go about doing what we do.

I am always sad when I hear people say that they leave their personality behind when they go to work. Alas it seems that is life. What is character when we have to have two masks?

I look at life as a community, being authentic and mindful of others needs is what we do, or should do, it defines us.

As I look at the new “decade” I look to sharing knowledge, paying forward and simply serving. A pretty old concept but not one that is followed much

After all life is not about us, its about what we do, who we are – character

So, often when I reflect and ask, when I am long gone, how will I be remembered? Who will be there to cry at my side when I leave this world?

Sobering thought maybe, but a great way to ground what we do and, make us think of what really matters in our lives.

True contentment can only be achieved when heart, mind body and soul join together.

So looking forward it’s a life of serving others and helping them reach their greatest heights.

We all have gifts to give, it is a lesser world should we not share them. It’s a lesser world when we don’t cherish those that are dearest to us.

It’s a lesser world when we simply don’t give of ourselves to the fullest.



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