My 2015 Leadership prayer – The Leader in me!

• I do this not for my glory but for yours.

• I don’t do this to get attention I come here to give it.

• I don’t say one thing and then do another.

• I have come here to give you my permission to use my authority, not to have authority over you.

• I pray that I can always give of my best so that I can develop the best out of others.

• I understand that I cannot do it on my own and must seek leaders who lead with heart.

• I understand it is not the skills I have but my character that will leave my legacy.

• I understand that the leadership code demands that I develop other leaders.

• I acknowledge that my leadership journey will be my Dash in life.

• I understand that my journey will not be easy and I will look to a higher inspiration to give me strength when I become weak.

• Please give me the courage and the heart to always know that in serving others I become a real leader and remember that is what a leader does!

 

HRMexplorer –  December 2014

The leader in me grows because I nurtured the leader in you!

A scorecard for life and work!

Many conversations start with a question!
How are you? How have you been? What have you been up to? And so on.

How did you feel when you were asked the questions? Did you feel like Oh Jeeze no!

We have all been there particularly when things have not been going so well. We have all had those moments…some moments lasting longer than others..

How do those moments change us? Have we become more than one person?
Different with different people…

I come across many people who tell me they are different people when they are at home than when they are at work.

Its not surprising to hear this I hear you say. Many of us show up differently given different circumstances.

The problem is who are we really?

The Questions of Faith and Fear

How do we show up each day?
What do we want to show and importantly what do we want to hide?
What do we want people to think of us?
What are we afraid of if we really show who we are?

Scorecards are life cards!

The thing is from the moment we were born we had a scorecard…how heavy, how long. What color eyes…… and so on.

It continued through infancy through to schools and sports, what were we good at what did we suck at!!

Remember first impressions and lasting impressions?

Life is a scorecard and yet when we get to work we are often different, we give lesser of ourselves and to our co-workers in many cases much less and yet…..

Work and Life
Productivity -Be the best you can be
Attendance -Be punctual when meeting friends
Quality -Be present and attentive
Safety -Do no harm to others – build relationships
Discipline -Fairness and honesty – Always

You see the thing is that each defines you and they cannot be separated:

Your Character
Your Curiosity
Your Courage

Are all ONE and the only thing you have to decide is whether faith of fear separates the REAL you from showing up.

HRMexplorer November 1st 2014
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The 6 phases of relationships

Part of  The 4 stages of leadership – see my link http://wp.me/pTp83-lN

This blog is about the 6 phases of relationships and follows under Personal Reflection in my 4 stages of leadership model.

Phase 1 – Relationship with me! – Realization.

• What kind of relationship do I want to have with myself?
• Do I like who I am?
• Am I positive or negative in what I see or do?
• Do I even like ME and is this who I always want to be?
• Am I stuck in my own emotions and do I want to change?
• Do I know what I want from myself?
• Is the present person I am harming others?

Develop the vision of who you want to be.

Phase 2 – Relationships with my community – my Mask.

• Do people feel positively or negatively towards me?
• What do they see in my actions and behaviors?
• Does a different part of me come out when I am in my community of family, friends, coworkers and community?
• Do I even let them into my world or do I keep them out?
• Do they believe or trust me?
• Do I even trust myself?
• Do they want to be with me? – Do I want to be with me?
• Start to seek out others to define existing and future reality of who I need and want to be. Indeed is there a positive future if I do not seek help from others?

Develop oneness – get rid of different masks– look for support.

Phase 3 – Attraction – develop the person you like and need to become.

• Give yourself permission that it’s possible to be different.
• Release the chains that hold you in the past and move to the community that will help you move to your vision.
• Find the communities you need to be part off and seek help and develop new relationships that are trusting and supportive.
• Develop faith over fear for the change that is needed and yet to come.

Change is not the option the only option is whether you have the courage to choose it.

Phase 4 – Lets Hang out – Staying with your new community.

• Continue to develop the “likeability” and goodness factor.
• Hang out with people who engage and promote the person you have always wanted to become (and needed to become.)
• Be with people who support and reinforce who you are becoming.
• Start to behave not how others expect you but how you need to develop the new you.

Define your character based, not on what others expect you too, but in the knowledge that you are accountable for your own actions.

Phase 5 – Developing Awesomeness.

• Continue to develop and sustain your character through higher levels of trusting relationships.
• Remember that by becoming awesome you develop an ever-increasing community that sustains lifelong relationships.
• Reestablish relationships with those love ones that were harmed
• Know that by becoming awesome your actions will start to serve others and not yourself.

The first stage of servant leadership.

Phase 6 – SuperAwsome.

• Become a champion of memorable relationships.
• Share your experiences with others so that they can also be inspired.

The path to developing leadership in others.

 

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So if I asked you in 3 years time…

What would have to have changed in your life both personally and professionally for you to be happy with your progress?

Just been reading a great book written by Dan Sullivan it’s called the “ The Dan Sullivan Question”.

Now many of us might well have been asking these questions in our own way but it’s a great reminder that follow up and understanding the constraints and more:

DO YOU KNOW HOW TO ANSWER THE QUESTION AT ALL OR EVEN WANT TO?

What would you say? Could you answer the question?

How truthful could you be and how much courage would it take to get to the answer?

Sullivan mentions His D.O.S. principles – Dangers, Opportunities and Strengths

It reminds me of many conversations I have about courage and character and how much of those two do you have?

It’s a great read but more than that it will make you think or NOT and that is the first step you have to take!

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Living a full life and dying empty

The electricity went out this morning, a wet sleety Saturday in October in Michigan and it was cold.

I put on my earphones and started to listen to Andrea Bocelli and picked up a book.

That book was  “The Accidental Creative” by Todd Henry and as is my way I immediately started to doodle thoughts in the margins.

It is true that I philosophize about life and perhaps reflect too much, for some people anyway.

Too many questions Peter they might say, just relax and live the moment. Never mind about tomorrow, enjoy today.

All that is true, however at least once a week I go on to utube and listen to the commencement speech of Steve Jobs:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UF8uR6Z6KLc

That speech was back in 2005 and it is worth reminding us, that life has to have a value.

I agree with Jobs, people can only make the connections looking back! After all is that not what wisdom is and imparting your experience to our young ones?

Reading for me is an aphrodisiac something that refreshes my mind and re-ignites my energy.

Thanks to this book I was reminded of some connections we can all relate to.

The challenge for all of us is: What are you prepared to do? When all is said and done how much will you have left in the “tank”?

The connections:

Stop trying + Stop doing = Mediocrity

Be the same + Do the same: + don’t question = Go with the Flow

Courage + Questioning + Challenge = Ride against the Flow

Structure + Intentional purpose = Effectiveness

Purpose + Intent  + Persistence = Generational ideas

A purposeful life is when you blend all that you do:

Work + Family + Relationships + Friends + Interests into who you are?

Someone who takes the next blank page and turns it into a picture and knowing that it is not what you know that matters but rather what you do.

Brilliant ideas are in everyone Thanks Todd

Ideas + thoughts + inspiration = the accidental Creative by Todd Henry

http://www.accidentalcreative.com/theaccidentalcreative/