As we leave 2012 behind some of the things of late on our minds have included:
The tragic massacre of human beings in Newtown Ct.
The end of the world.
Concern over the fiscal cliff.
Looking at new ways not to give employee benefits under Obama care.
Rationalizing all the bad things and figuring out how to compromise their discontinuation.
What does this tell us about who we have become as a society?
Why have we become so acclimatized to acceptance?
Lets start to do what we know we must.
Lets build a better environment and stop compromising because in the words of
Henry Ford (1863-1947), “If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.”
Lets make 2013 a year when we build a better world for our children, families and those who we have yet to meet.
Lets start making the changes we know we must.
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We are surrounded by the temptation of buying beyond our needs.
AND taking 6 months (on average) to pay off the credit cards.
Consider; what you really pay with all that added payment interest. Not such a bargain is it?
SO, lets get our priorities straight: Remember you have a mortgage, car payment, utility bills, and the well being of your family.
AND Christmas is not about what we get!
Christmas for many lasts for a few minutes of ripping open presents, and throwing them aside to open the next one.
This year, take a break, spend time making cookies, drinking hot cocoa and watching Christmas story with your family, talking to neighbors, invite a family less fortunate to your celebrations.
Cuddles and hugs don’t cost, but their effect is priceless!
Make a Christmas Resolution that each year you will adopt a family; there are always people less fortunate then we are, and think about what they need to live a life of comfort.
When you do that you remember with tears that the very basic things in life are gifts much appreciated.
Christmas is a time for reflection and remembering that the true gift is of giving.
Happy Holidays! Guest Blogger: Sister Mae I and HRMexplorer
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A Lady is patiently sitting on a bench waiting at the bus stop. Her name is Mary.
She has been waiting for the bus for a while.
A passerby asks Mary “How often does the bus go by?”
Mary says “Every 10 minutes”.
I ask because I noticed that you have been sitting here for a long time.
“Why are you still here?”
Mary looks up, sighs wearily, and points to a sign, that says, “ NO carry on allowed”.
The problem, Mary sighs, “Is that I have all this baggage with me.”
The passerby asks, “What is in your baggage that you cannot leave behind?”
I have all these memories and thoughts that I cannot let go off; my ex, my past jobs, the house I lost in foreclosure, thoughts of friends who deserted me when I had no job; bad relationships, lost confidence.
The passerby reflects and says to Mary “But those are all in your past the bus takes you forward you need to leave that baggage behind.”
Mary sighs heavily and says “But it’s hard to let go of the past!”
We can all relate and feel Mary’s pain. We all have baggage.
It’s what we do with that baggage that reflects on who we are and how we move forward and the life we will live.
We need to have faith and let go of the fear. We need to find new faiths, relationships and friendships.
We need to leave the baggage behind that keeps us from moving forward
Hold your faith Let go of your baggage, leave it behind, let it go.
Get on the bus and move into your future
Original idea from Sister Mae I
Joe was a quiet man just 60 years old. He was a highly decorated veteran from his war days. He was even decorated before the President of the United Sates, yet very few people ever knew. Joe was that kind of man.
All of his days he kept the war in Vietnam in his soul and it weighed heavily in his heart.
All of his days he was ashamed for the human tragedy that occurred in the work that he did in defending his country with honor.
Joe was a farmer, he knew how to grow, cultivate and nurture; he found it strange and it did not sit easily with him to destroy things.
All of his days his heart was heavy with the chains of guilt of that distant time.
By day, Joe was a successful patent design engineer in the auto industry and by night he was “Joe the farmer”. You see Joe came from a farming family and work was just what he did.
For Joe his life could never be deemed a success. In Joe his heart was always heavy.
I was there when he passed away at the VA hospital from the effects of “agent orange”.
I was there when the palliative care chaplain helped Joe come to peace with himself and help Joe understand that it was ok to know that he had had a good life, as family man, an award winning patent engineer, and highly decorated soldier. It was ok for Joe to feel good about himself!
That it was ok for Joe to take off those chains of guilt and sorrow that he had carried around his heart all of his life, and that God would forgive him. Joe you are not a bad man!
People simply could not understand that it was difficult for him to go see young kids who had been hurt and were in hospital or talk about much that was personal.
People simply could not ever fathom that Joe’s soul was tormented all of his days with the flashbacks of a war some 40 years ago.
People simply could not understand that the medals Joe received reminded him not of glory days but days of sadness and the horrific effects of a war that no one seemed to want and war heroes that many turned their backs on.
Joe should have been proud of serving his country in a far of foreign land. No one was there to liberate Joe though, and I saw many others in the same situation when I visited the VA hospital. Strange that we expect and ask much from those that serves others. Where are we for those who serve us?
Joe should not have had to wait until his dying moments to be liberated and to come to his God not knowing that it was ok to ask forgiveness for yourself.
So as I sat quietly, and heard Joe tell the stories he had kept in his heart for so long. I had the privilege to see a man come to peace with himself and to see a man transformed by the gift of the palliative care chaplain prepare Joe for his final journey.
The weight that was lifted from that man showed in the relief in his face. Joe looked strangely younger then the sick man he was.
Coming to terms with your life does that to you. Why did Joe have to wait until then?
I write this homage to Joe and the work of the VA hospitals across the USA and the sacred work of the chaplain who took Joe’s hand and said its ok, you have permission to forgive yourself in the eyes of the Lord.
I wonder though…..
I wonder what more can we do to help all of the “USA Joe’s” who fought for their country and who suffer from pains and terrible images and memories of a long gone war.
I wonder what we have to do to lift those heavy chains from the souls of those gentle folks who simply did what they were asked by their country and help liberate their spirit.
After all liberation is why they were fighting for their country.
Thanks Joe, I am so sorry that we could not have helped you with your pain during your lifetime.
I salute you and all the of men and women who protect and defend the American homeland.
I don’t wonder any more I know there is more to do. Thank you for being the hero you are.
Idea adapted by HRMexplorer from where have all the flowers gone – words and music by Pete Seeger
I was mulling this thought over recently as I overheard a couple of friends talking about what was happening to them and their friends in the factory in which they worked, they were simply disillusioned, they had lost their jobs and their boss had gone on vacation!
I got to thinking that in a world where people need people more than at any time in history I started wondering how are we connecting, I mean really connecting with each other in the communities in which we live, play and work?
Seems like there is a problem going on when I see values floating by those that need to feel them!
Where have all the values gone, I mean would you really work for the CEOs who fly in on their Jets and then say, the factory’s got to go its costing us too much, but when quizzed they say their bonus is contractual.
Or would you rather work for the boss who goes undercover and cries with you and admits that they need to do more, and rallies everyone and proclaims together we will create something special. Together we will create the American Dream.
Where have all the Values gone seem like everyone picks them everyone, because it’s the right thing to say and do? And then chooses when and how to use them. When will they ever learn? When will they ever learn? ……..
That the shadow they cast is not special when it changes from halo to horrible from magical to mean. And that the shadow they cast melts into meaninglessness when it flutters in the wind and disappears like sand in the wind.
Where have all the values gone and when did we stop asking others what is important to them and caring and supporting them when we know.
Values without meaning have no character at all. Values without consistency simply does not get it!
So lets create the values-revolution! The charter that we must all adhere to:
- Get connected and stay connected with those around you- it makes a difference
- Support each other in three ways
- Relationships with others (engagement care)
- Relationships with your family (family care)
- Relationship with yourself (self care)
It’s all about relationships it always was after all relationships without values is like afternoon tea without lemon!
And remember to treat others how they want to be treated and that character is built through reversing the golden rule, not treating people how you want to be treated