Monthly Archives: April 2012
I was talking to a friend of mine in Scotland. She had just returned from a class on professionalism.
She works for a very small business, less than 10 people.
She pondered a great question by one of her colleagues:
“You should be friendly to the people you work with but NOT be friends. The relationship should be professional and nothing else EVER.”
It is a great question. We have all been subjected to those moments when we have felt excluded when co-workers develop friendships that make us uncomfortable.
However is there an argument for that being a crazy expectation when we work for very small organizations when creating a “family environment” really fosters friendships?
Let’s have your thoughts on this one!
Love to a 5 year old little boy:
When my grandmother got arthritis , she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails anymore, so my grandfather does it for her all the time now. He must really Love her!
Earning money to a six year old:
A six year old boy came over to watch the dogs, while I was working in the yard one Saturday, he was happy to know he was going to earn $2 for the hour. When his playmate ask him to share it with her, he replied no, I worked for this money. She said “well, it’s not much money anyway”! The little boy said, “it’s more than you made today”!
For the love of children:
Recently I took a friend’s children to a craft day at the local toy store, they must have had strict orders not to ask me to buy anything. So, before leaving to the store, they both looked at me and said, “you don’t have to buy us anything unless you want to”! How could I not!
It seems the more people want to vary their work schedule, and the more the business complies the more people want!
I was speaking to some friends of mine who own their own businesses, in retail. They tell me “stories” about their staff always wanting time off at the busiest of times,holidays!
They tell me they usually have to concede something, like an early finish time or half a day.
Then everything goes haywire when one staff member has “earned” time off. The others feel they should get the same just because..it’s not fair!
Ok give it a rest folks. We all go to work and there is something called a work schedule.
Don’t spend all your time trying to figure out how much time “You are not going to work”.
It makes it easy for the business.
I say to them go find those who want to work!
When you get time off to go to the dentist, the doctor , daycare etc etc it’s a privilege, especially when every time it happens to eat into your work schedule!
Don’t ever be a doctor or a nurse! That’ s all I say.
Great employers will always be flexible..but don’t risk a privilege becoming an entitlement.
Being a leader or a manager of people (and much has been discussed about the difference) has never been about simply the role.
We all have had conversations about what we need to do or to be done. Conversations alone do not achieve anything.
I am here to say that there is much that is the same when we speak about the leader or the manager in us. Indeed the crucial sameness is what we need to aspire to attain, and that sameness outweighs all others.
It seems to me that in our soul we need to recognize that there are times when we have to meet our calling. When the very essence of our character is being challenged.
I have observed the following results and consequences:
Step one: When character and courage come together great things happen.
Step two: When character and courage and understanding come together greater things happen.
Step three: When character and courage and understanding and passion come together extraordinary things happen.
Step four: When character, courage, understanding, passion, and one mission come together you can change the world and you know the change you wanted!
It seems to me that our role is to explain the dream and provide unbridled opportunity for people to excel and reach that dream, and along the way to provide opportunities.
The role of a leader is to understand:
- What it takes to cherish and kindle souls, inspire people, and provide a walk way.
- Understand also that it is they who will deliver.
- That we cannot really lead others when we do not know the path ourselves.
- That we cannot expect others to know the path when we ourselves are unclear.
- We cannot develop others when we ourselves are uncertain.
It is only when we reach step four that we have provided directional leadership and focus for all followers. All other steps are achievable as individuals only step four brings oneness to an organization.