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Truth or Secret!

As a blogger I am fortunate to have a number of folks’ who talk to me about what I write. This is one of their stories.

This blog may well reach out to many of us who have had those moments when we had to decide Truth or Secret. This may be YOUR STORY TOO…

  • Which can you cope with?
  • What do you REALLY want to KNOW?
  • If we knew could we ever FORGET?
  • If we knew could we ever FORGIVE?
  • Would it make us STRONGER?
  • Would it make us WEAKER?
  • Would it destroy who we ARE?
  • Would it define our CHARCTER for BETTER or WORSE?

Life has given all of us this CROSS ROAD and yet many of us HIDE truth and SECRET away for it is easier not to DEAL with REALITY.

Sometimes, we believe that not knowing is better than dealing with the the REALITY of TRUTH.

And yet…… those who don’t want to know will always remember… LINGERING DOUBTS LAST A LIFE TIME….

Do we REALLY believe that not KNOWING is the coping mechanism of LIFE?

Sometimes TRUTH is to damn HARD to cope with and too HURTFUL that we may never RETURN to who we ARE.

Sometimes the SECRET we keep is all the TRUTH we need and KNOW that the TWISTS and BENDS of life MAKES us WHO WE ARE!

The TRUTH is we all HAVE SECRETS the question is has HOW DID IT MAKE US BETTER PEOPLE…. Did it BUILD us or DIMINISH us?

Dedicated to all those who went through that dark tunnel! Thanks for sharing the journey.

“Par is what I shot today.”

Now not everyone is a golfer. This quote from Willie Nelson made me think however about how we think about ourselves and how sometimes the “little” things drive us so blindingly hard.

It is sometimes easy to forget to enjoy who we already are and the friendships and life already lived.

Now I know that for millions of golfers shooting Par golf is a sublime dream and no “little” thing.

We all have dreams. I think it is important that we have them.

Lets make sure that our dreams keep us grounded and deliver the best of ourselves.

There are many out there whose pursuit of their dream makes them people we do not want to be around.

Being reflective, being able to laugh at ourselves; enjoying life and knowing that we have so little time on this planet and doing the very best we can is already a life fulfilled.

Was this not the dream of our parents? They simply wanted us to be good people and be kind to others and have a good life.

Enjoying who you are is as important as who you want to be. Don’t let the one diminish the other.


HR the real role: to be a Rag-picker of people’s dreams!

Thanks to a colleague of mine who gave me a fascinating book to read. Og Mandino calls it “The Greatest Miracle in the world”.

It struck me how far away the HR function has removed itself from being the developmental  “heart and soul” champion and leader of an organization.

I am tough on my profession, rightly so when all I continue to get is: hire-fire-policies and procedures.

This is so much CRAP: Communities Resist Administrative Procrastination.

In my recent article The Rubber Band Theory of Leadership ™ HRMexplorer Blogs | URL:

I made the point that when there are no boxes and the rubber band has stretched beyond return the human mind has an infinite capacity to unchain itself from being the “prisoner of sameness”.

On reading this book the message is so clear. “There is a miracle in all of us”. The role of HR and indeed all leaders is to release the minds of those we interact with. In business off course they are our employees, but it goes for everything we do.

We all become prisoners of who we are and not who we can be and that provides a life of “Stuckness”.

We give off the impression “of rooms we have lived in and not doors that we can open”.

We give of the aura that what we have done is all that there is to us.

The book so eloquently speaks to our sometimes feeling like playing God but the author quickly sweeps us to the fact that God plays man and all that God has achieved by way of miracles is through the words and work of man. So we need to use the gift!

When I was reading the enlightened words of Mandino it struck me as it often does that if bringing people back from the “dead”  – those mentally exhausted with little or no hope is not what WE do as Hr professionals’ nay all leaders of people then all is for naught!

We need to be rag-pickers of human souls!

There are too many instances of disciplinary or corrective action plans. Lets get rid of that thinking because what we need to do is got those who are in “trouble’ to help us solve what all to often is a “system problem!” The mindset that goes with traditional thinking is that we look to “fix people” WRONG!

As James Allen states in his book “As a man thinkith!” we are and behave”… Negative thoughts beget negative actions. GIGO (garbage in garbage out).

Think about when planting your garden: we nurture and fertilize that soil. Harvest minds and we will reap empowered people.

“Many people have become what they think.” And in Allen’s words as a man makeith in his heart so does he do and is known”.

Much of the work we need to do as leaders of people is to unbridle the cobwebs of uncertainty and allow people the courage to be what they can dream to be and beyond.

Thanks Lou for passing on a miracle to me.

The definition of a Rag-picker :



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