As a blogger I am fortunate to have a number of folks’ who talk to me about what I write. This is one of their stories.
This blog may well reach out to many of us who have had those moments when we had to decide Truth or Secret. This may be YOUR STORY TOO…
- Which can you cope with?
- What do you REALLY want to KNOW?
- If we knew could we ever FORGET?
- If we knew could we ever FORGIVE?
- Would it make us STRONGER?
- Would it make us WEAKER?
- Would it destroy who we ARE?
- Would it define our CHARCTER for BETTER or WORSE?
Life has given all of us this CROSS ROAD and yet many of us HIDE truth and SECRET away for it is easier not to DEAL with REALITY.
Sometimes, we believe that not knowing is better than dealing with the the REALITY of TRUTH.
And yet…… those who don’t want to know will always remember… LINGERING DOUBTS LAST A LIFE TIME….
Do we REALLY believe that not KNOWING is the coping mechanism of LIFE?
Sometimes TRUTH is to damn HARD to cope with and too HURTFUL that we may never RETURN to who we ARE.
Sometimes the SECRET we keep is all the TRUTH we need and KNOW that the TWISTS and BENDS of life MAKES us WHO WE ARE!
The TRUTH is we all HAVE SECRETS the question is has HOW DID IT MAKE US BETTER PEOPLE…. Did it BUILD us or DIMINISH us?
Dedicated to all those who went through that dark tunnel! Thanks for sharing the journey.
Soar on the breeze, blown by the Wind
You may have my heart but not my soul
Life brings what it does…. No matter.
I am in charge of myself let it be known
My mind is my compass; my heart my compassion
My soul defines my character, and who I am.
My journey to my destiny be clear comes with choices
To be led by the crowd or hold strong through my faith.
And know what defines me are the choices I make
They will carry me through life’s challenges, whether they be good or with strife
What I achieve in my life is the reason for my being.
For they say life is a dash
And others will respond and attempt to influence; of that there is little doubt;
To have their say but be certain it does not have to be their way.
Create your own “carpe diem” and soar on the breeze and live your life.
Always remember stand out from the crowd
And be remembered because of who you truly are as that
Is the best of your life.
To always be remembered as the best version of who you are:
is to live through doing no harm to others.
Each day awakening with good in your heart;
a smile on your face and kindness in your deeds.
As such be remembered.
Part of The 4 stages of leadership – see my link http://wp.me/pTp83-lN
This blog is about the 6 phases of relationships and follows under Personal Reflection in my 4 stages of leadership model.
Phase 1 – Relationship with me! – Realization.
- What kind of relationship do I want to have with myself?
- Do I like who I am?
- Am I positive or negative in what I see or do?
- Do I even like ME and is this who I always want to be?
- Am I stuck in my own emotions and do I want to change?
- Do I know what I want from myself?
- Is the present person I am harming others?
Develop the vision of who you want to be.
Phase 2 – Relationships with my community – my Mask.
- Do people feel positively or negatively towards me?
- What do they see in my actions and behaviors?
- Does a different part of me come out when I am in my community of family, friends, coworkers and community?
- Do I even let them into my world or do I keep them out?
- Do they believe or trust me?
- Do I even trust myself?
- Do they want to be with me? – Do I want to be with me?
- Start to seek out others to define existing and future reality of who I need and want to be. Indeed is there a positive future if I do not seek help from others?
Develop oneness – get rid of different masks– look for support.
Phase 3 – Attraction – develop the person you like and need to become.
- Give yourself permission that it’s possible to be different.
- Release the chains that hold you in the past and move to the community that will help you move to your vision.
- Find the communities you need to be part off and seek help and develop new relationships that are trusting and supportive.
- Develop faith over fear for the change that is needed and yet to come.
Change is not the option the only option is whether you have the courage to choose it.
Phase 4 – Lets Hang out – Staying with your new community.
- Continue to develop the “likeability” and goodness factor.
- Hang out with people who engage and promote the person you have always wanted to become (and needed to become.)
- Be with people who support and reinforce who you are becoming.
- Start to behave not how others expect you but how you need to develop the new you.
Define your character based, not on what others expect you too, but in the knowledge that you are accountable for your own actions.
Phase 5 – Developing Awesomeness.
- Continue to develop and sustain your character through higher levels of trusting relationships.
- Remember that by becoming awesome you develop an ever-increasing community that sustains lifelong relationships.
- Reestablish relationships with those love ones that were harmed
- Know that by becoming awesome your actions will start to serve others and not yourself.
The first stage of servant leadership.
Phase 6 – SuperAwsome.
- Become a champion of memorable relationships.
- Share your experiences with others so that they can also be inspired.
The path to developing leadership in others.
Incredible so that you can give you’re very best to
Loving and kind and do good deeds to
Turn reading into thoughts and thoughts into deeds and make those deeds count, make 2014 the greatest year yet!
Picture courtesy of lauraconnell.com
Just saying the C word is scary, now our family like many is going to face the C word.
This young man, never sick a day of his life, was told he has lung cancer and the diagnosis is dim.
Facing, doctor appointments, tests, surgery, and preparing to perhaps never working again. The odds are against him. Never to see a grandchild puts things into perspective.
For me, something told me when he got sick; do not ignore the signs, and then something told me to have faith. I sent my younger sister a book “Believe” was the title. She told me in the hospital, as we waited for her husband in surgery, “I tried to read it, and I would start crying, I never got through it.”
Her high school sweet heart, friend, husband, a father, my sister was preparing for the worse.
Their reverend met with them several times, (discussing his last will and testament) their friends stopped by to show support, and family came, we are all committed to help in any way.
The day came, our family, his children, his brother, friends, and relatives, sat, paced, and watched the screen in the waiting room for hours. Can you imagine what goes through your mind waiting for a doctor or nurse to come talk to you, it was brutal!
The hospitals I think believe that those screens showing progress are helpful but as the hours flow by I am not so sure. God please thank those physicians who spend ours without break doing major surgery.
All I could think about the previous Sunday morning, watching Joel Osteen broadcast: Faith, not Fear. He said:
“Your situation may look impossible, but don’t ever rule out the favor of God.” I believed we were in Gods favor that day.
The doctor came to the waiting room, straight out of surgery to deliver the message, we all gathered to hear the news.
My younger sister with tears streaming down her face, so scared, his children gripping their hands together stood with no facial expressions. We all heard the words, the surgery went well, we did take one lung, due to infection and we believe the cancer was contained.
Our heavy hearts were finally lightened.
Today, my brother-in-law is doing great, recovering slowly, but progressing everyday! I can’t explain why he was in God’s favor that day, but I am very thankful he was.
My brother in law is also a carpenter. We have hope and faith that he will have many years ahead of him.
Sister Mae I