Does constructive criticism lower the other person’s sense of value?
Are you judging their ability?
If you don’t want feedback, don’t ask! If you ask, be able to handle it- positively!
I know I am not the worse critic, however I don’t disguise the truth, and I’m not going to sugar coat it. I think people are better than that!
I have been thanked, heard excuses, and I have even heard, it’s not my fault!
Tells me a great deal about their ownership!
The problem with constructive criticism is you have just challenged them to get it right the next time.
You have brought to their attention, and you’re expecting it to change now.
Feedback is necessary; I once heard that complaints are blessings. Why? Because if you don’t know, you can’t change it.
How do we learn, change, and grow, without constructive criticism. Yes, it hurts, but we want to be successful, so getting feedback can be a good thing. I have recently been involved in a big event; there were a lot of good changes.
Venue, emcee’s, menu…some pretty big stuff.
They asked me to join them at a wrap up meeting. BIG MISTAKE! I had a list, two pages! It wasn’t meant to be “this is everything wrong” it was meant to be “we can be better”.
In my list I included the items that were awesome and I always leave it on a good note, of you did a really great job. You never want them to think you have lost confidence in them. It isn’t about being hurtful or just complaining, they need to be recognized for what was done very well, and what we can do to be better.
But be careful, the question asked to me at the end of the meeting was; would you chair this event next year! Eekkk!
No!! Don’t you get it isn’t about me it is about how WE can all do better.
Sister Mae I