How long should I live before I forgive? A reflection on life’s journey.
Posted by HRMexplorer
A great question but the real question is how long will it take me to forgive before I can really live?
Seems to me that we find it hard to do what’s right for ourselves, yet we want to help others and give them our opinions and suggestions.
We know why, because, its simply too hard to change ourselves. Many don’t have the will or desire or inclination.
What is it that stops us doing for ourselves what is easy for us to give to others?
I guess it’s because we know who we are and maybe who we want to be.
Forgiving takes courage of letting go of the baggage. Courage and a journey that many would rather not face.
Letting go of the past and living in the future means we don’t have to face living in the moment.
That’s hard because we have to face daily reality and redefine our mental model.
For many of us our past defines who we are and our future who we want to be.
What we don’t seem to want to define is the character of who we are today.
Today is all that really matters, for today and what we do with it is our “real me”. Today is our character.
Today is whom people come across and remember.
Today is when the decision is made to forgive and move from victim to accountable.
From who we were to who we are.
Knowing that when we let go and forgive we have given ourselves permission to re-ignite our spirit.
In my blog the rubber band theory of leadership I exposed my theory that hardly anyone snaps the rubber band. Why is that? I believe it’s because people are comfortable and when they snap the rubber band they move into the unknown.
When you are in that place it calls on your courage and desire and none of your experience is of value because you have simply never been there.
So start forgiving and start living!
And remember when you are that very last runner in the race just before the sweeper..you did it and that’s a feeling you can remember and make you feel good for the rest of your life.
And like all races and life the first steps always begin the journey.
Thanks Ann you are an inspiration.