Drama and Trauma in the workplace and in Life!
Where drama stops and real conversations of the heart begin
Where the development of you is first and always a priority”.
I have never met anyone who has not had to live with drama or trauma. So it is part of life and part of the living.
The number of times I have had conversations in my role as business/hr professional /confidant is countless.
“My boss always pushes me to my limits”.
“I don’t think they hear the pressure I am under”.
“My relationship with…sucks”.
It makes me feel undervalued and not worthy. I am not being “seen or heard”.
I don’t have a voice! It is like I don’t exist.
I wonder how much is due to the perception of the person themselves on others.
Has there been any real attempt to “understand the people they are talking about”!
All to often our past experiences continue to cloud how we think today. How co-workers treated us then has given us a mental model that it will always be like that wherever we go or work.
Many relationships are “frozen in the wrong moment”. A moment that has long gone and now so fixated in our mind it stops us seeing and being in the moment of now!
Few of us want to live in the past and for many leaving that behind will allow them to breathe fresh and renewed air and ENERGY. It is also fundamental in allowing us to regenerate our mind and spirit and take us on our journey to where we want to go into the future.
We have to stop thinking “as it was’ but pause and reflect as it HAS to be.
Life is for living and forming breathtaking relationships that are forever memorable!
Every day ask yourself how will I bring the best of me into what I do.
All too often we want to fix other people BEFORE we fix what we need to work on!
In Her book “ Healing Trauma” Patricia O’Gorman PHD offers us coping strategies to “Learn to Live in the moment” Her thoughts on the need for us all to “self Parent” reminds us of the need to take care of ourselves.
It would do us all a power of good to do some of what she calls “ Soothing exercises that repair and restore” and learning thought replacement.
Everyone who wants to get a kick-start by looking at how they can improve their own lives and All Human Resource folks and indeed “Managers of People” should read what she has to say. Sometimes the answers are not where we think they are!!
Reference and ideas taken from the book “ Healing Trauma” available at the following website: