Daily Archives: November 5, 2011
I think we can all relate to what he said. This was the “conversation.”
“Driving my car is no longer something I look forward to. The traffic is getting worse and worse and someone is going to get killed! It’s just impossible with all those crazy drivers! I believe that it is getting dangerous and people don’t seem to care about common courtesy.” I am getting scared!”
I said: “What do you mean?”
He said: “I am glad you asked,” rather too quickly clearly wanting to get this off his mind, “This is what I mean!”
- Sitting at the traffic light and as soon as the light turns green the guy behind me was honking and already slowly creeping up my fender.
- People pass me on both sides of the freeway lane and I am doing 70! I am scared to change lane!
- People pulling out in front of me with out using their blinker.
- People passing the slower traffic lane at about a mile an hour faster then the car they are overtaking! Taking an age to overtake and causing a build up of outer lane traffic, just overtake for the goodness sake!
- People cutting me off when they come onto the freeway!
- People yelling and giving me the “middle finger” when I tried to get by them.
- People not letting me in when the road narrows due to construction.
- People sitting in the outside lane going slower then other cars.
“Ok! Ok! I get the message!”
I said, knowing there was much more to come due to the ever-continuing rising tone in his voice.
I later reflected on this conversation! And came to the following conclusion.
WE are the traffic!!!!
How many times do we get in the way of others, whether in a conversation or a meeting or when making a point or simply walking through open doors?
How many times do we not follow the rules with the prospect of knowing it could do harm to others?
How many times do we cut other people off when they are talking?
Are we really thinking and listening to other people when we “change lanes” and move the conversation to what we want to talk about? Are we even listening to them? Do we allow them into the conversation?
How much do we really care about others when things get tough and options are narrowed like those construction lanes? At those moments do we give way or charge forward with our ideas?
Like those drivers with road rage, who certainly give no thought to other drivers’ safety, are we any better with our “corporate rage” with the potential to also kill people!
After all isn’t that what we are doing when we dampen their spirit, take away their respect, their confidence, their self-belief and worth or when we kill their self-confidence?
Being a road hog is not just something that happens when we drive our cars’, it happens to all of us and we don’t need to be in a car. We are the traffic and we need to know that!